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1/31/2012

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Hello from! From… ehh… well, this isn’t good. We’re less than a month in and I already can’t think of where to say hello from! Hello from home? Not especially interesting, but it’s true. And honesty is the best policy! So life is good. My 18-hour semester is off to a pretty good start. I’ve had a lot of homework, but it’s been survivable so far. Of particular mention is the fact that my WinShape interview is tomorrow! I’m excited, but also nervous, so pray for me please. I’ve never had an interview before, so I’m not really sure what to expect, like what questions might be asked or how long it will last. Any ideas? I believe D-group is also starting this Thursday, so that’s exciting! I can’t think of any more stuff to talk about, so on to Question Tuesday!

AB:

Kindness, Selflessness, Compassion- my answer goes for all three of these: you can be too kind/selfless/compassionate from a selfish perspective, since thinking too much of others means not thinking of yourself and results in suffering/death for you (which could also be considered too much for the people to whom you’re being kind/selfless/compassionate, since if you’re dead you can’t be kind/selfless/compassionate to them anymore. Also, sometimes people would consider such actions as pitying and not want your kindness/selflessness/compassion, and so following through would be too much in their opinion).

Self-control- if we’re too much in control of ourselves, we’re not letting God be in control. “If God is your copilot, swap seats!” (That quote is from a flair I have. And flair is working again!!! Yay!!!). On a different note, if you’re always in control of yourself, then you can’t write off your mistakes and pretend they were on accident. Well, I guess you could, but people would be much less likely to buy it.

Parenthetical remarks- umm, yeah. Too many parentheses interrupt the flow and make the writing extremely confusing. Exhibit A: last Tuesday!

Playing dumb when a boy likes you- having used this strategy myself in quite a lot of instances, I am certainly of the opinion that it has its merits, whether you like the boy who might like you or the contrary. If the first is true, there’s always the possibility that your own feelings are fueling your perception, so I feel like it’s best to play it safe and not do anything unless he overtly admits to his feelings. In the opposite case, pretending to misinterpret a boy’s repeated advances could make him realize that you do not reciprocate, thus avoiding an awkward refusal. Of course, a lot of the time such a boy will go on and confess his feelings anyway, necessitating the aforementioned awkward refusal. But it was worth a try, right?

Hunger Games tribute- oh dear. I don’t think I would do well at all as a Hunger Games tribute. Since I can’t hunt, gather, fight, or defend, it would pretty much be just a matter of time (and probably not very much of it) before I fell victim to some murder-crazed Career. That being said, it’s not like I would just give up. I would probably spend my training learning basic survival stuff- food, water, shelter- and maybe attempting some defense strategies. Then my main strategy would be to hide and hope that maybe the other 23 competitors would kill each other off without my interference? (Hah! Like the Controllers would allow that…). From the stand point of someone who hasn’t grown up with the inevitability of the Games every year, I would be opposed to actually killing anyone except in defense, and I’m not sure I could even manage it then (morally OR physically. The “frailty” of which Dwain is so fond of talking would probably become much more fitting in such circumstances). So, yeah, don’t bet on me… 

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Jill
1/30/2012 11:27:37 pm

I'm still not in favor of playing dumb in most cases. I think it would feel very demeaning to both myself and the other person (this only applies to the second case you mentioned). But maybe that's just a pride issue on my part

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Sara
1/31/2012 06:47:15 am

In some situations, I could see where you could get demeaning. But there are times when it would be mean to acknowledge these things. Like if a boy is standing really close to you, would you rather back up or confront him? Or if he's talking about something excessively relationship-y, it might be better to change the subject than to tell him he's making you uncomfortable. It is circumventing the problem, and generally only postponing the inevitable, but it also gives you time to think about what you can say to make it less awkward or mean if he persists.

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Jill
1/31/2012 01:20:04 pm

In the case where he is merely standing really close to you, I suppose "playing dumb" isn't bad (though really, it's kinda just moving out of the way - which I would do with anyone that was too close).
But in the case where it's too relationship-y, I really think being honest is the better move. If you're not comfortable, say so. The weird part is if you're not talking face to face or if it's in that vague stage where you don't really know why he's acting a certain way.
And as far as gaining more time to think about how to say things: technically I'm in favor of playing dumb in that if I don't know what to say, I don't generally say anything at all. But if it's really obvious that a response of some sort is needed, playing dumb is almost mean.

Anna Beth
1/31/2012 06:49:28 am

See, I get what you're saying, for the most part. But it's more like you're being manipulative for the common good than demeaning. lol. By playing dumb, you're not truly acting unintelligent. Manipulative, yes. Actually dumb, no. Not that manipulating people is good. But if you're trying to spare someone's feelings it can be advantageous. But that's just me. lol
This is completely hypothetical, by the way.

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Sara
1/31/2012 08:33:27 am

Aah, I love you Anna Beth <3

Jill
1/31/2012 01:23:41 pm

But the problem is more that I don't like being perceived as dumb in any sense.
And being honest doesn't mean you have to be mean.

shelbs
1/30/2012 11:42:45 pm

I disagree with some of your answers. Just so you know.
So if we are talking about boys, the question is this. How do you let a guy know you like him without being forward or just saying it?

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Sara
1/31/2012 06:26:39 am

I like this question-asking thing :) I dunno how helpful my advice can be, Sherbs, since you tend to be a lot more forward than I am. In general, though, I think you can make sure he knows that you enjoy talking to him and being around him- show your excitement when you see him and make a point of talking to him or sitting by him when you're hanging out in a group. Really, it doesn't seem to me that you should have to go out of your way to show your feelings; if you really like him, it will probably show.

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shelbs magee
1/31/2012 01:07:01 pm

But it's Asbury, so there is no non-awkward way to hang out with him. He isn't in my group of friends, so I really mostly only see him at work and at random times. And of course, I'm obviously excited to be talking to him at those times.

Sara
1/31/2012 01:16:36 pm

So invite him to hang out with you and your friends? And like I said before: if you like him, it's probably going to show without your having to make conscious effort. Now, whether he'll NOTICE is a whole other issue. I don't think boys take hints, so it's likely that you'd have to spell it out if you really wanted him to get it.

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Anna Beth
2/1/2012 07:58:39 pm

That's when you get your friends involved. Compile a group of girls and guys to go do something fun, and then invite him. That way, he knows that you want to hang out with him, but it's not awkward and obvious, because you'll have other guys there too.

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shelbs
2/2/2012 02:08:46 pm

I don't have enough guy friends for these purposes

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Sara
2/3/2012 01:24:15 pm

do your friends have guy friends?

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Amber
2/3/2012 03:34:24 pm

Yo. Another boy related question.....
How old is too old? As in, is it pushing it for a grad student to be dating an undergraduate? An undergraduate dating a high school student? At what point does an age difference of 4-5 years "cease" to matter?
And another fun question:
How do you make sure you wake up in the morning? AKA If you have two alarm clocks set and you still don't wake up, how can you remedy that to make sure you wake up?
And a third:
What would you do if you were a leprechaun? :D

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